Thought Process: Monogamy

I definitely believe in a “to each their own” mentality but I also feel like some people have the idea of monogamy twisted. Men specifically have told me that if it’s possible to have multiple soul mates, then why would I not explore them all? I agree. What I, personally, can’t do is explore them all at the same time. One of my friends even called me closed minded because of this idea I have that every romantic relationship in your life deserves its own place in time separate from the rest. Some people have even reached far enough to explain to me that monogamy is a limitation on love. I disagree.
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Monogamy isn’t a limitation on love. It’s a focus on love that allows it to grow healthily and immensely for one specific person who in their being has more to offer you than time allows you to explore. So why would anyone want to split that time amongst multiple beings and only get to love them to such a short extent? Isn’t that a true limitation on love? To only be able to love somebody half-heartedly because your heart had to divide it’s time and energy is a ceiling that doesn’t have to exist. But I guess this all goes back to a very frequent question amongst human beings. Would you prefer quantity or quality?

If “love from many” is what you seek then monogamy isn’t for you and that’s okay... but if every night you pray for a deeper love that seems endless even in a room full of clocks, then you must discipline yourself to be able to dedicate your time to the person who pours into you the most and be sure to always refill their glass and never leave it empty. That’s a love I, personally, can partake in. That’s monogamy to me.